Forgiveness is personal No matter what camp a person is in, Christian, atheist or otherwise, (s)he should understand that the power of forgiveness is (1) For one's own relief from anger, sorrow, relentlessness, and so on; (2) On secular or divine basis of humanity and fraternity (not exactly love), not only toward family and friends, but toward many more that may include his/her own enemies as well. However, if I forgave murderers who had killed your loved ones, I'd be stepping into your private realm of entirety and wholesomeness. In layman's words, I shall have no power to intrude your private life (or to forgive in this manner).
正在学习英文，我来试着翻译下
宽恕只能代表个人，无论你是那种人（基督徒，无神论者或者其他人），他（她）应该明白付出宽恕应该具有这样的效应：
1 为了有效减轻一个人的愤怒，悲伤，冰冷的心境等等
2 建立在世俗或者神圣的仁慈和友爱（不仅仅是爱情）的基础上，不仅仅针对家人和朋友，也意味着要宽恕他（她）的敌人
然而，如果我原谅了杀死你爱的人的凶手，我就完全进入了你的人畜无害的私人领域，用外行的话来说，我没有权力去介入你的私生活（我也不会以这种方式来原谅罪人）
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